As you may know, some of the information for this site comes from the book The Greatest Gift: The Insider’s Guide to Living Kidney Donation, which I am writing with Betsy Crais, a live-donor kidney recipient. As we come into the final lap of the book’s marathon preparation, I thought it was time to share its origins with you.
Betsy and I met nearly two decades ago when our daughters were in the same Girl Scout troop (we bonded when we shared a pup tent during a camping trip). Some years later we discovered that we also shared a passion for encouraging living organ donation, which has resulted in this book.
How did we go from tent-mates to co-authors? I’m glad you asked. Read on.
When Betsy first faced declining kidney function and had to consider dialysis and ultimately a transplant about 15 years ago, the only books she found to inform her were renal-focused cookbooks or medical texts about kidney diseases, with short chapters about her condition (polycystic kidney disease, or PKD). There was little available on what to expect before and after dialysis or transplant, and certainly nothing that delved into topics related to emotions or family relationships.
Fortunately for Betsy, she at least could talk about her disease with her mother and two of her siblings, who also had PKD. Through them, she could at least get some of her personal questions answered. Later her sisters also came to help her when she had her surgeries. Although her siblings’ care was a great blessing, the best part was having someone there who had been through the experience and could guide her expectations.
In contrast, when I faced the opposite situation a couple of years later—contemplating being a living donor for my 25-year-old son, Paul—I knew no one who had donated a kidney. I had dozens of questions and could ask the professionals some of them but had no one to advise me who’d been through the experience. For Paul’s questions, fortunately our family could call on Betsy, who talked to Paul to help allay his and the rest of the family’s concerns. Most important, Betsy shared some encouraging examples of how her quality of life had improved post transplant compared with her time on dialysis.
Not long after Betsy’s transplant and recovery, she began thinking about her difficult experiences and the silver lining of having family members with PKD who could be her own invaluable support group. The awareness that most people, like me, do not have that critical support prompted us both to want to write a book that could help others be more informed about what to expect in the donation and transplantation processes. Both of us had been surprised and frustrated to find so little practical, nontechnical information and support in those pre-Google days.
Early on Betsy drafted an outline and started thinking of people who might contribute various chapters, and Carol wrote an occasional op-ed piece on being a living donor. But because of day-to-day obligations it would be several more years before Carol reached out to Betsy to talk concretely about an idea for this book.
Neither of us knew that the other had already been thinking along the same lines.
Next time I’ll provide some specifics about The Greatest Gift: The Insider’s Guide to Living Kidney Donation and share with you our goals for the book.
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